Despite what I might have done in past, I assure you I’m not an evil man. An evil man would enjoy doing these things. I don’t . It was just something that my sensibilities demand.
My driving belief is in respect. Respecting yourself and others is critical. I will respect you until you do something to lose it, at which point I will just walk away. I will never darken your doorway again. I think everyone has a duty to be as good as they can possibly be. Sure, some will achieve more than others, but so long as you try your best I will respect you. One word of caution; disrespect me and you’d better duck.
Next to respect, what I value most is loyalty and trust. I will never lie or be devious to those that have my respect. I am loyal to a fault, again to those that deserve it. Note the careful wording. If you lose my trust, then loyalty and respect are also off the table.
I have a strong belief in justice. Good things should happen to good people and bad things to bad people. I’m also old-fashioned. If you wrong me then you won’t have to worry about writs and court, but you’d better be very careful walking down any dark alleys. If I shake hands on a deal and it doesn’t happen, then check the death notices; my name will be there.
You went away.
Today I signed on a piece of paper that broke the link that I had with you. Perhaps it was already broken. The signature was the last ritual. I almost broke into tears as I put pen to the paper. But alas, I couldn’t. And I could see that you were happy. Happy to be promoted. Happy to succeed. Your ambition fuels you. If your ambitions are not fulfilled, you feel sense of loss.
And, yet you preach. You preach patience. You preach belief. You tell me to wait. Tell me honestly, could you?
I was disheartened. Totally. I can see the happiness. Did you feel bad even for a moment for me? Didnt you feel as if you are betraying me? And, the ignition. Lol..you took the bait – Hook line and sinker.
Today you demonstrated your priorities- you love your recognition more than you do love me. Imagine if I had done the same. You’d be nowhere. I reestablished you in front of SPSJ. Does MKB knows that I did all the job you proudly showed him as yours ? Do you think BSP would have won vayoshrestha without me ?
Sorry to puncture holes in your deflated ego, but you will learn one day that nothing works like grace. You know, often our actions results into reactions that are borne by our kids.
You says one’s locus should be internal. Hell. Is it yours? Yours is fully external. You are like a social butterfly who is enthralled at attention, who revels in it and fails to acknowledge her real source of strength.
May the almighty give sadbuddhi to you. May it fuel your ambition into a raging fire which consumes all that you love and hold sacred.
Good bye dear girl. It was good while it lasted.
I have always loved you. Loved you with deepest of feelings, without any expectations. So much so, that I haven’t even burdened you with that knowledge. And you’ve always pushed back. Always retaliated. And why? Because of reasons that cannot be ascribed to me.
I have always born your reactions thinking that it’s your pain that’s coming to forth, but it was never like that. Your reaction was also a cold manipulation that I couldn’t understand at that time. Slowly, but surely you are revealing yourself. Maybe, I am not good for you, but you are worse. You have tried to kill my inner spirit with rejection and denial. I’d have loved if you would have come out in open and aired your feelings. No, you always shroud your rejection in some mystery. Alas, there is none, except the fact that you enjoy delivering pain and I am an idiot who is the glutton for punishment.
Today, I become conscious of this fact. Today I am trying to educate my heart and mind that you are not good for me. Not at all. Since I have acknowledged my love for you, you have taken it for granted. No more. No more will I allow self-abuse. No more will I allow you to insult me. I will only deal professionally with you. I can’t and don’t want to avoid you. I just want to make my life easier and less painful.
I will try to disassociate with you in subtle ways. I promise:
- I will no longer come to you and sit with you without any purpose
- I will no longer try to analyse you for your own development
- I will not talk about your person
- I will not check for your texts and messages in the middle of night.
I know, it will be difficult. But I need to break these chains.
Major encounters in life and major disasters in life come unannounced. Like a thunderbolt. They shake the very foundation you have build upon. They will question everything that you had carefully crafted, created and collected. They will destroy every idea, ideology, thought you held dear. You feel like floating on a wooden board over an endless choppy sea, smashed by storms of unpredictable tomorrows. You will have no ground under your feet. No land in sight.
At this very moment epiphany happens. You realise the futility of your struggles. The relentless fight against the current. Simple acceptance dawns on you. Not a reluctant giving up but a wilful letting go. And you simply relax into the flow of life. Gently flowing with the flow. Realising suddenly the sheer madness of holding on. And sheer magic of letting go.
(Courtesy Urvashi Goja)
In the endless chain of cause and effect – called life, it is difficult to understand what is the cause and what is the effect. While searching for solutions to our problems, we are often caught in this quagmire of cause and effect with no visible or ready solutions. Good Intentions don’t count. The process doesn’t matter. The outcome is also irrelevant. Is it inner blindness which doesn’t allow you to see the solution, (or the problem in the first place?) or is it unwillingness to see the solution. Years of reading and experience doesn’t prepare you for the moment in which all that is required. Your innards are broken, the trust destroyed in a minute and all you are left with is a life which you don’t want or desire.
The Gita insists on unity of the life of spirit which cannot be resolved into philosophic wisdom, devoted love or strenuous action. Work, knowledge and devotion are complimentary both when we seek the goal and after we attain it. We do not proceed on the same lines but that which we seek is same.
Anyone who attains the goal is released from divided loyalties and actions. His body, mind and spirit, the ‘conscious, the pre-conscious and unconscious, to use Freud’s word work flawlessly together and attain a rhythm expressed in the ecstacy of joy, the illumination of knowledge and the intensity of energy. His personality is raised to its fullness, it’s maximum expression, pure and free, buoyant and unburdened.
Our swadharma, outward life and svabhav, inner being must answer to each other. Only then the action will be free, easy and spontaneous.(Excerpted from The Bhagavadgita by Dr. S Radhakrishnan). A great read indeed.
Every deed, whether good or bad, produces it’s natural effect and involved embodiment in world and is obstacle to liberation. Every deed confirms egoism and separateness of doer, and sets in motion new series of effects.
Gahan karmano gatih. It’s not possible to abstain from work or action. Nature is ever at work and we are deluded if we think that process can be held up. Nor is cessation from action desirable. Inertia is not freedom. The binding quality of action does not lies in the action itself, but in the motive or desire that prompts it. Renunciation refers, not to act itself but to the frame of mind behind the act. Renunciation means absence of desire.